It's Always Been All About Her

I have refrained from jumping on the "Octo-Mom Bandwagon"...until now. Nadya Suleman has now fired the non-profit group "Angels in Waiting" and is refusing their in-home assistance for her family. (This is the group that Dr. Phil negotiated with in getting her free, and more importantly, extremely well-qualified 24/7 nursing staff.) These nurses were what made it possible for Nadya to bring home the first four octuplets this month. Without them in place, it is doubtful that the hospital would have released the infants at all.

So many people have expressed concern and serious doubts that any family could support and nurture a family of this size. To think that this woman, unemployed without demonstrable assets or income, who continually says it all about the children but whose actions just as clearly prove that it's all about her, would be remotely capable of this feat is unimaginable at best.

Nadya hasn't worked in years and has relied on the proceeds of a legal settlement for her existence. Despite this, she found the resources to fulfill HER wishes of having a LARGE family. Without regard for the six children at home (three of whom are identified as having special needs), she insisted on becoming pregnant yet again and with her doctor's assistance even defied recommended practices by insisting on being implanted all remaining (we can only hope) embryos resulting in octuplets.

The needs have all been hers - SHE wanted to have a family; SHE wanted to have a large family; SHE wanted to become pregnant again; SHE wanted to try for multiple births (for what other reason would she insist on ALL remaining embryos being implanted? She is relatively young and certainly future pregnancies were still an option.); SHE wanted to bring these children home and raise them completely by herself (unless someone wants to donate "TO THE CHILDREN" - "NOTHING FOR ME" she says. Certainly no one would need to contribute anything to her wants - she is quite capable of acquiring anything SHE WANTS.)

I watched part of the interview on the Dr. Phil show earlier this month. I like Dr. Phil. I do believe that he wants to help, albeit in a high profile manner (especially since March is "sweeps" month on tv), but that he was taken in by this woman. I found her to be disingenuous and enjoying the fact that the limelight is clearly focused on her. I'm no psychiatrist but I think this woman needs help. And the fact that she keeps refusing genuine assistance which would do nothing more than allow her to keep her family together in a safe and child-centered manner, in my mind is only more evidence of her mental imbalance.

I fear for these 14 children - I fear for their physical safety and well-being; I fear for their chances of mental and emotional stability. I hope that Nadya gets and ACCEPTS help soon for everyone's sake.

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